First – the science. Bullies are humans. Did you know that? Yeah. they are. And we humans behave badly towards one another for a wide variety of reasons. Most of these reasons have nothing to do with the victim and everything to do with the kid behaving badly.
When a bully gets caught – they tend to act very predictably. So predictibly that if you weren’t sure whether the accusations are true or not – if they engage in certain predictable behavior after being accused, it’s a good indicator that they did something they shouldn’t have.
Don’t let other people’s insecurities dictate what you like. What you like is what makes you an interesting person worth knowing. So brush off the haters and be you.
And the more chronic it is the hard it will be to make it stop. As unpleasant as this is we need to start telling kids the truth and give them the real tools they need to stop this problem.