People in the west tend to think of yielding as weakness. We are supposed to stand up to bullies and confront them. But sometimes you win by not fighting and this is true with bullies. If you fight them, they win. But if you yield strategically you reset the interaction so that you are in control of it.
Dealing with a bullying boss is nearly impossible. Most things you will try to do will make things worse. And the researchers interviewed for the article had no advice for how to actually fix things. So here’s what they missed.
I get it – most people have no idea how to get bullying to stop, so they get desperate. But how about instead of teaching your kid to use incredibly aggressive and totally not appropriate violent methods to stop a 6 year old from bullying, why not teach them how to disarm bullies using their words instead?
While not everyone behaves well with others, that doesn’t mean we should lower our standards. Today is Christmas Eve. Even if you don’t celebrate Christmas, you are aware of it. …
