if you are in a school as an adult – you NEED to learn what actually works to get bullying behavior to stop. Also, you need to take bullying seriously because left on its own this behavior escalates. We have decades of research on behavior that explains exactly how and why this happens. Stop being caught off guard, learn the science and start dealing with this appropriately – in other words, in a way that will actually help to make it stop because – you know the science of how to get behaviors to stop.
When I started teaching people about bullying, I did so because I was incredibly frustrated at all the misinformation there was regarding bullying. People have all sorts of crazy theories about why bullying occurs. The simple truth is, bullies bully because it works.
Assumptions about what is causing bullying and what bullying is are preventing us from solving the problem. So let’s take these one by one and dispel the myths and talk about what might actually work instead.
The role of the coach is to coach both the alleged victim and the alleged bully in how to proceed and what their expectations are and what the consequences will be if retaliation occurs.