Feel sorry for bullies

First – the science. Bullies are humans. Did you know that? Yeah. they are. And we humans behave badly towards one another for a wide variety of reasons. Most of these reasons have nothing to do with the victim and everything to do with the kid behaving badly.

DARVO: Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender.

When a bully gets caught – they tend to act very predictably. So predictibly that if you weren’t sure whether the accusations are true or not – if they engage in certain predictable behavior after being accused, it’s a good indicator that they did something they shouldn’t have.

Bullying Tip #14: Bullying in School can be stopped

Dealing with chronic bullying

And the more chronic it is the hard it will be to make it stop. As unpleasant as this is we need to start telling kids the truth and give them the real tools they need to stop this problem.