- Bully Vaccine Toolkit Lesson 1 – Operant Conditioning Primer
- Bully Vaccine Toolkit Lesson 2 – Real Life Examples
- Bully Vaccine Toolkit Lesson 3 – Documenting Bullying
- Bully Vaccine Toolkit Lesson 4 – Why Bullies Bully
- Bully Vaccine Toolkit Lesson 5 – Developing an Action Plan
- Bully Vaccine Toolkit Lesson 6 – Parent’s Responsibility
- Bully Vaccine Toolkit Lesson 7 – Getting Help
- Toolkit Extras
- Toolkit Downloads
Real Life Examples
In this lesson you will be provided with examples of how you can apply operant conditioning to real bullying situations.
This unit includes a 1 hour video lesson as well a pdf handout on how to deal with just about any bullying situation.
Download and Read the Tips for Dealing with Any Sort of Bully
Here is the one hour video – real life examples of bullying and how you can apply operant conditioning to it. Again, you may need to give your computer permission to view this file.
Coming Up
Lesson 3 will focus on how and why to document bullying. Why documenting bullying properly is so important and how doing so will help you tackle your bullying problem.
Hi, my son gets beaten up, pushed around, insulted or called names almost every day by different kids. I have tried to approach the school but they make it seem like it’s normal and he should learn to deal with his classmates. As a matter of fact, I feel embarrassed myself, about going to them and complaining every day about a different kid. I am sure, my son’s overly sensitive nature and lack of social skills is a major part of the problem. But still, as a father, I want him to be safe and have his dignity and self-respect intact. I don’t know what to do, please help.
Don’t feel embarrassed about going back every day and complaining. The only way to get this to stop is to be consistent. If you are not consistent, things won’t get better. You should be helping to document everything that is happening and going back every day to report. Not to be cranky that they haven’t done anything yet – but to give them updates. These behaviors don’t start over night and they don’t stop overnight. The staff at the school needs your daily updates to stay on top of this. You are being helpful by being consistent. So consider reframing your interactions with the school. Your kid isn’t the only kid and this behavior needs to stop and they can’t stop it if they don’t know what is happening. When my son had problems, I would be in contact with the school every day until the problem resolved. I was never told I was a problem. In fact I was often thanked. I don’t go in angry. I go in to be helpful – not just for my son’s sake, but for the other kids being harmed as well. Eventually they will start taking the correct corrective actions and it will start to get better.
Here’s what happens when you don’t go in every day. The bullies get away with it. This is variable reinforcement and it makes their behavior stronger and harder to stop. So once you start reporting, report every day. Tell your son it may get worse for a little bit – but … you all are going to stay on top of this and get it to stop and that the only way to get it to stop is to report every incident every day. Good luck and sorry for the delay in responding.