Why did bullies bully me?

People write to me with questions all the time. I want to make one thing clear about the reasons why people are bullying you.

Compassion for bullies

This woman tracked down her bullies and other women in middle school. What she learned, may surprise you.

Why bullies bother us so much

we seek approval from the groups we are in and are very attuned to our status within a group. So when someone challenges us and tells us we don’t belong, it hurts. A lot more than it really should.