First, let me explain what a proxy problem is. A proxy problem is the problem you think is your problem, but isn’t really your real problem. It’s standing in for …
This was a comment I got on one of my anti-bullying videos. The person was saying, no – they don’t need to feel compassion for their bully. I get it. No one wants to feel bad for a bully. But that’s not the point of feeling compassion.
Being lied about is upsetting. Our instincts are to defend ourselves from the slander. But is that really the best way to deal with it?
No one likes a bully. No one. Not even the bully. It is very easy to get mad and angry and even hate bullies, but hating a bully isn’t going to make you feel better.