There is enough pain and suffering in the world. Let’s not add to it. Instead, let’s give people the benefit of the doubt and allow them to surprise us.
It is very distressing when someone lies about you. So how should you respond?
It’s amazing that such a small tweak to how you think can make such a big difference. So don’t hate your bully, feel compassion for them.
In 2016, researchers stumbled on a radical tactic for reducing another person’s bigotry: a frank, brief conversation. The website Vox wrote an article about this research here: https://www.vox.com/identities/2016/11/15/13595508/racism-research-study-trump The technique …