This is such an interesting question. I normally recommend NOT responding to bullying texts and pretending like you didn’t even see it. And then feigning ignorance if it is brought up. But there are other ways to think about how and if to respond using behavioral psychology.
Are you sensitive? Do you feel hurt when people insult you – or say something mean? Would you like to learn how to NOT take things so personally? The key …
One of the reasons I teach the things I do – how to stop bullying using behavioral science – is because I know – the only way to resist behavioral conditioning is to understand how it’s happening. That way – hopefully – you can identify what is happening and intellectually resist. If you don’t recognize what is going on – you won’t figure it out until it is too late.
We all have biases. It’s a natural shortcut our brain takes as we size up people we don’t know. Are they part of OUR tribe? Or not. We all should take care that to recognize when our brains label someone – OTHER. and check and see whether that is true or not.