I give really good advice. Seriously I do. It isn't so much that I help people solve their immediate problems, it is that I help them think more clearly about their problems so that they can solve them in a way they are going to feel REALLY good about. The people I help tell me I have transformed their lives. The approach I teach is called Humanism and it has been around since, well, forever. The three main aspects of the philosophy I teach is how to make better decisions thru critical thinking. How to improve your relationships thru compassion and how to infuse your life with meaning and purpose by applying your ethics actively to all your decisions, not just the big ones.
I am the host of this website and the author of The Bully Vaccine which teaches an operant conditioning approach to the problem of bullying.
Bullies are gonna bully and haters are gonna hate. What we all need is a strategy to deal with it when it happens. Sticking our heads in the sand and then freaking out when it happens, isn’t working all that well.
While every state has a stalking law that defines harassment, not every state defines harassment in such a way that would include cyber-harassment/stalking. It turns out that some states required direct contact between victim and harasser in order for it to be harassment.
People in the west tend to think of yielding as weakness. We are supposed to stand up to bullies and confront them. But sometimes you win by not fighting and this is true with bullies. If you fight them, they win. But if you yield strategically you reset the interaction so that you are in control of it.
Dealing with a bullying boss is nearly impossible. Most things you will try to do will make things worse. And the researchers interviewed for the article had no advice for how to actually fix things. So here’s what they missed.