One of the reasons I teach the things I do – how to stop bullying using behavioral science – is because I know – the only way to resist behavioral conditioning is to understand how it’s happening. That way – hopefully – you can identify what is happening and intellectually resist. If you don’t recognize what is going on – you won’t figure it out until it is too late.
Relationship abuse is part of the same dynamic and same problem as bullying. To get people away from abusive situations takes time, compassion and restraint. But mostly time and consistency of support, over time.