I wish I could tell you magic words that would make bullying stop. But unfortunately – it doesn’t work like that. What I can teach you – is things you can say – that if you say them consistently – will make a bully – want to leave you alone.
Bullying is a behavior. Behaviors are learned. They do it because it works. If you want to make it stop – you have to make it stop working.
This approach – not control – but help – works. It’s compassionate. It’s humane. It’s science based. And we need to start being more intentional in what we teach and how we teach it.
The answer to the question – does it help to ignore a bully – is complicated. It depends on what you mean by – ignore.