I give really good advice. Seriously I do. It isn't so much that I help people solve their immediate problems, it is that I help them think more clearly about their problems so that they can solve them in a way they are going to feel REALLY good about. The people I help tell me I have transformed their lives. The approach I teach is called Humanism and it has been around since, well, forever. The three main aspects of the philosophy I teach is how to make better decisions thru critical thinking. How to improve your relationships thru compassion and how to infuse your life with meaning and purpose by applying your ethics actively to all your decisions, not just the big ones.
I am the host of this website and the author of The Bully Vaccine which teaches an operant conditioning approach to the problem of bullying.
The beautiful thing about cyberbullying is just how clearly you can see the extinction burst of the behavior as the bully loses control of the situation and themselves. Some of the email trails that get left are nothing short of spectacular. Let the bully dig their own hole. It has nothing to do with you, even if you are the target.
I can’t possible teach all that I know in a single article and I don’t try to. What I try to do is get people interested in learning this material in the first place.
Isn’t it time we start using science to solve this problem instead of teaching kids platitudes like – ignore them and they will go away – which doesn’t work because it triggers an extinction burst (meaning it makes things escalate and get worse), without telling people what to do after they trigger the frigging extinction burst.