What to say to bullies over text?

This is such an interesting question. I normally recommend NOT responding to bullying texts and pretending like you didn’t even see it. And then feigning ignorance if it is brought up. But there are other ways to think about how and if to respond using behavioral psychology.

Who do you want to be?

Most humans, including bullies, have a vision of themselves. If you are relatively healthy, you will think you are moral, for the most part, and that when someone is rude to you, they are at fault. But how do you know if you aren’t the problem?