Using Science on Bullies – because it works
We need to tackle bullying using science. But not just any field of study – behavioral psychology!
Bullies can be trained to behave better
One of the reasons we have failed to get bullying to stop is because we are focused on bullies being bad and so we think we can punish them to get them to stop. Behavioral change doesn’t work that way. At. All.
Don’t Ever Ignore a Bully
The advice everyone gives about how to deal with a bully is wrong. There. I said it. Someone had to. To get a bully to stop you need to remove their reward. You don’t do that by ignoring them.
Compassion? For Bullies?
Whenever I tell people that the best way to stop bullying is to be compassionate, people tell me I’ve lost my mind. There is a reason every major religion and philosophy teaches compassion. It’s a powerful tool for managing interpersonal dynamics. Use it. It won’t make you weak. It will make you strong.