The beautiful thing about cyberbullying is just how clearly you can see the extinction burst of the behavior as the bully loses control of the situation and themselves. Some of the email trails that get left are nothing short of spectacular. Let the bully dig their own hole. It has nothing to do with you, even if you are the target.
I can’t possible teach all that I know in a single article and I don’t try to. What I try to do is get people interested in learning this material in the first place.
Isn’t it time we start using science to solve this problem instead of teaching kids platitudes like – ignore them and they will go away – which doesn’t work because it triggers an extinction burst (meaning it makes things escalate and get worse), without telling people what to do after they trigger the frigging extinction burst.
When it comes to extinction bursts, dolphin trainers really do know their stuff. Seth Slater is a former Navy dolphin trainer and he has a great article at Psychology Today …
