What training dolphins taught me about dealing with bullies
I used to train dolphins. That’s me with a dolphin named HIapo. Jennifer training a dolphin in Hawaii What I teach about how to stop bullying, comes directly from the …
Dealing with Internet Bullyng and Polarization
This post is less for the kids than it is for the adults. I keep getting people emailing me about how to handle internet trolls. People who are rude and …
Don’t Hate the Hater and Don’t Bully the Bully
If someone is behaving badly, you don’t have to join them. Hate is a very difficult emotion to feel and it’s a very difficult emotion to carry. If you want to be happy in life, and I hope you do, learn how to deal with difficult people, with love, joy and compassion. It will drive the haters mad.
Is there a core value I emphasize when confronting a bully? Yes. Compassion.
When someone is behaving in a way we don’t like, we can choose our response. The way to get a bully to stop is to stop rewarding them. And we do that, through compassionate non-compliance. And I realize that is a big word. It just means, nicely … don’t give them what they want.