This was a comment I got on one of my anti-bullying videos. The person was saying, no – they don’t need to feel compassion for their bully. I get it. No one wants to feel bad for a bully. But that’s not the point of feeling compassion.
No one likes a bully. No one. Not even the bully. It is very easy to get mad and angry and even hate bullies, but hating a bully isn’t going to make you feel better.
Learning how to calm yourself down so that a) you don’t succumb to the fear and b) so you can respond strategically to get a bully to leave you alone is an important life skill to learn. And it is learn-able.