No one likes a bully. No one. Not even the bully. It is very easy to get mad and angry and even hate bullies, but hating a bully isn’t going to make you feel better.
Hate is a normal human emotion. If someone upsets us or disgusts us, hate is a very normal emotion to feel. It is anger and empowering to a certain point. The problem is, hate doesn’t feel very good.
I don’t know about you, but I don’t like feeling that emotion. I would rather think of funner things.
When you find yourself hating your bully, I want you to think twice. This person is not behaving well. Something is definitely wrong with them and they are hurting you and others. You should focus on making sure they don’t hurt you or others. Hate doesn’t help you not hurt. Hate is kind of like taking your hurt and making a big picture of it and putting it in your room. And you hate that it is there but you don’t know how to get rid of it.
The way to get rid of it is to focus on more positive things. When you find yourself hating, remind yourself to feel sorry for the person instead and once you feel sorry for them, think about the people who make you happy and seek out the people who make you happy.
Your thoughts are habits. If you are in the habit of thinking about scary things, you will be scared a lot. If you think of the things that scare you, you will be scared a lot. It takes practice to change these habits.
The first step is to recognize your emotion and name it. Right now I am feeling – whatever it is you are feeling. It’s ok to feel that, but it is also ok to feel something else.
Part of growing up is learning how to be ok with your emotions and to experience them without allowing them to control you. It is very hard to do. Some people never learn how to do this.
But if you practice, you will get better. And eventually, you will succeed. Good luck.