Assumptions about what is causing bullying and what bullying is are preventing us from solving the problem. So let’s take these one by one and dispel the myths and talk about what might actually work instead.
The role of the coach is to coach both the alleged victim and the alleged bully in how to proceed and what their expectations are and what the consequences will be if retaliation occurs.
None of us should be afraid of bullies. Their behavior is predictable and easy to control. So don’t suffer anymore and don’t allow your child to suffer. Teach them what they need to learn and help them master these skills. They and you will be glad you did.
How you get people to stop a behavior is a question for behavioral psychology – which has a fabulous answer. An answer that has been researched for decades – it’s called extinguishing a behavior.
