Teachers – learn about how this dynamic plays out and how to behaviorally control it. Kids who are being bullied – are too stressed to learn. And seriously – learning how to deal with bullies – is an important life lesson.
We all have moments where we get upset. That’s ok. That’s normal. What is not ok is taking out your anxiety and fears on other people. So, the challenge is – how to make space for those emotions, while teaching kids how to not “lash out” as a result of those emotions.
You remove the reward by owning your awesomeness. They will escalate. Get frustrated and eventually leave you alone. They will get worse – before they give up. This is to be expected. It’s part of the process. It even has a name: Extinction Burst and it’s well studied
The goal of this strategy is to implement programs that will not only drastically reduce bullying by 80 to 90% but that will work effectively at the local level and be scalable at the national and international levels.