I give really good advice. Seriously I do. It isn't so much that I help people solve their immediate problems, it is that I help them think more clearly about their problems so that they can solve them in a way they are going to feel REALLY good about. The people I help tell me I have transformed their lives. The approach I teach is called Humanism and it has been around since, well, forever. The three main aspects of the philosophy I teach is how to make better decisions thru critical thinking. How to improve your relationships thru compassion and how to infuse your life with meaning and purpose by applying your ethics actively to all your decisions, not just the big ones.
I am the host of this website and the author of The Bully Vaccine which teaches an operant conditioning approach to the problem of bullying.
We humans are instinctively programmed to want to fit in. When someone marks us as others, our immediate instinct is to basically beg to get back into the “group.” This …
My son and I had a conversation about how you tame and about how the behavioral extinction process is the same for taming animals to ride them as it is to get bullies to stop. They will fight you and eventually stop – if you do not give them their reward.
When people behave badly – it’s rarely about you and almost always – all about them. The best thing you can do is be compassionate. If you make it all about you – you are not helping yourself or them and you will end up hurting more than you need to and probably make the stressed out poorly behaving person – behave even worse.