Compassion for bullies
This woman tracked down her bullies and other women in middle school. What she learned, may surprise you.
Is there a core value I emphasize when confronting a bully? Yes. Compassion.
When someone is behaving in a way we don’t like, we can choose our response. The way to get a bully to stop is to stop rewarding them. And we do that, through compassionate non-compliance. And I realize that is a big word. It just means, nicely … don’t give them what they want.
Should I do something nice for a bully?
Be nice – but don’t be a push over.
Who do you want to be?
Most humans, including bullies, have a vision of themselves. If you are relatively healthy, you will think you are moral, for the most part, and that when someone is rude to you, they are at fault. But how do you know if you aren’t the problem?