Why did bullies bully me?

People write to me with questions all the time. I want to make one thing clear about the reasons why people are bullying you.

Compassion for bullies

This woman tracked down her bullies and other women in middle school. What she learned, may surprise you.

Depressed Businessman Sitting At Outdoors” by stockimages

It’s Not About You – Adult Edition

When people behave badly – it’s rarely about you and almost always – all about them.  The best thing you can do is be compassionate. If you make it all about you – you are not helping yourself or them and you will end up hurting more than you need to and probably make the stressed out poorly behaving person – behave even worse. 

Humanism and Bullying

Eliminating bullying isn’t just about what not to do – it’s also about having ideals to strive for.