Why bullies bother us so much

we seek approval from the groups we are in and are very attuned to our status within a group. So when someone challenges us and tells us we don’t belong, it hurts. A lot more than it really should.

Should we hate bullies?

Bullies are humans too and have their own problems. Plus, hate doesn’t help us deal with it or make the unwanted behavior stop. And, hate doesn’t feel good. Hate is triple plus bad.