Teachers – learn about how this dynamic plays out and how to behaviorally control it. Kids who are being bullied – are too stressed to learn. And seriously – learning how to deal with bullies – is an important life lesson.
The question is – what are you going to do about it. First – understand – this is mentally draining and traumatic. Your response to this – isn’t blown out of proportion. It’s ok to respond the way you are.
This may seem strange to people who have not been victimized, but it’s hard not to feel responsible for what happens to yourself. And when someone violates you – it’s hard – not to take it personally. And people do.
hate isn’t rational. It’s a realistic response, but it doesn’t always help us come up with a strategy that will actually work to solve our problem. Most of the time when we are in the throws of hate – we just lash out – randomly and ineffectively.
